It’s the same every year. We approach December 31st after weeks of eating, drinking and partying nonstop and we promise ourselves things are about to change right after New Years’ Eve.
We say proudly to ourselves and others that we’re going to improve our lives in one way or another: ‘I’m going to get fit and healthy,’ ‘I’m going to get a better job,’ ‘I’m going to start a business,’ etc. etc.
Come New Year’s Day we think about it here and there, maybe change something for a few weeks like going running or reading books, and we feel like we’ve achieved something because of it. Then suddenly, months have gone by and we have receded subconsciously into our old ways.
For most people, this is a vicious cycle that will repeat itself every single year until it’s too late. It’s a harsh truth but you’re ready to hear it because you’re reading this and you know it’s time to do something different and get better results.
And you’ve probably read blog posts before telling you the usual things like set SMART goals, write your resolution down, tell your friends about it, etc. This is different because getting a different result to everyone else (often the better result) requires doing something different.
What I’m about to propose are three unique (and much more fun) methods of setting and carrying out resolutions. Each one I developed myself (but were inspired by books/articles I’ve read) and have tested myself, with some pretty interesting results. Here they are – I hope they help you make lasting change this New Years.
The two-part resolution
Different people set different types of goals – some big, some small. Often people will try to get rid of a bad habit like smoking, or alternatively set a long term goal like running a marathon. But what they don’t do is realize that long term and short term go hand in hand and support each other massively.
Your part one is to make a small change in your life like giving up a habit or creating a new habit. Some examples: stopping smoking, eating your 5 a day, reading every day, speaking to a stranger every day, playing the guitar every day, taking a cold shower every day, running every day, etc. Effectively, make a small but consistent change.
Number two is a long term goal. IT HAS TO GO HAND IN HAND with your small change. For example, going for a run every day and running a marathon in 9 months would fit perfectly.
A few more examples could be playing the guitar every day and playing a solo in a concert by the end of the year, or saving a percentage of your income every month then investing it in a new business at the end of the year.
There’s no point in starting something when you don’t know why you’re doing it or how you will benefit from it in the long run. That’s the key here. You’ve got a starting point and an end point – you have direction – meaning there’s a motive to actually get up and stick to your small change every single day.
A resolution every month
This encourages change and trying new things, and can hugely improve your self-confidence, which will benefit you for a lifetime. Effectively, you make a small change every month and stick to it for the whole month.
Because this changes every month, I recommend doing a different challenge every month. Some challenges I have set myself for a month are cold showers every morning, no masturbation, getting up at 5AM, going to the gym 6 times a week, reading a book a week, and saving a high percentage of my income.
Firstly, these are fun to do. You build a sense of self-control and start to enjoy pushing your limits when you get into it. Challenging yourself means facing your fears, and when you do that on a consistent basis you build massive confidence.
30 Day Commitment Challenge
This will only take a month, but it can turn your life around. It’s a tough challenge, so only take part if you’re serious about making change. Rather than changing just one thing, you’re gonna make three huge changes to your life.
I made this challenge into an eBook which can be accessed by joining our Facebook Group, however I will give the main ideas here so you get the idea of what to do.
What you’re going to do is give up an old habit, replace that old habit with a new, life improving habit (similar to the small change in the ‘two-part resolution’), and try something new for 30 days. Here’s a basic example: stop smoking, start running, start playing the guitar.
You’re tapping into your self-control here by banishing a negative part of your life, and at the same time you are creating a new positive area of your life that will spark growth. You’re doubling down on improving your life, and you’re gonna grow twice as quick.
There’s a thing called keystone habits, and these are habits that impact every aspect of your life, so I’d recommend starting a keystone habit as your positive change. Fro example, running is one of them, as exercising is likely to encourage you to eat healthy, sleep better and be more disciplined and focused with work.
The trying something new part is going to have a similar effect as the ‘resolution every month’ method. It will increase your confidence by going into the unknown and facing your fears, and it will inspire you to escape your comfort zone more often, embrace change and enjoy whatever life throws at you.
If you would like to get access to the full 30 Day Commitment Challenge, click here to sign up and join the Self Mastery Group on Facebook.
Don’t be like everyone else this year. New Years’ resolutions aren’t just a way of making yourself feel better about being complacent in December. We’re almost at the end of the year so now is your opportunity to take control of your life and seriously make a change. Try something different, get a different result. Trust me, different is better in this case.